Model How You Want Your Students to Behave

Model How You Want Your Students to Behave

Model How You Want Your Students to Behaveteacher-and-student

As teachers “We are Stewards Over the Future” so we should model the behavior that we want our students to display now, so that in the future we see a better world. Obviously, what we say and do is important to teaching, vitally important. Our students face situations on a daily basis that were unheard of 10-20 years ago.
Our influence needs to come from a heart of humbleness and understanding that there a many factors that contribute to our students behavior, mostly from observing and interacting with us; their teacher. We want them repeating our good behaviors not our bad ones.
We like happy students, so we need to be happy. We like our students using their manners, so use your manners. Be respectful, positive, encouraging and friendly so that your students see what it is like to be a responsible caring adult. Model how you want your students to behave.
Yes, it puts a lot of emphasis on teaching, and what we model affects our future Lawyers, Doctors, Teachers, and Parents. Teachers are not perfect and we make mistakes, but when you make a mistake model another important skill; apologize.

Joseph Joubert, a French writer stated,
“Children have more need of models than critics.”

The Three R’s Of Logical Consequences

Logical Consequences, Not Punishment

Children can be counted on to forget the rules. At times, they might even choose not to follow them when impulse and immediate gratification hold sway — to take another run around the playground; to dawdle their way to a lesson; to pass a note; to make a rude gesture; or to use feet, not words, to settle a dispute. When a reminder fails to redirect behavior, teachers using a Responsive Classroom approach and implement logical consequences.  A logical consequence generally has two steps. The first step is to stop the misbehavior. The second step is to provide an action that recalls children to the rules, reinstates the limits, and teaches alternative behaviors.

‘Logical consequences’ is a strategy that seeks to help children learn from their mistakes. In my experience, children are more apt to learn from mistakes when adults implement consequences with respect and firmness. How we approach children when they mess-up matters. In the Responsive Classroom approach, we advocate using criteria we title, “the three R’s.”

 Logical consequences are respectful, relevant, and realistic.

Respectful – Respect is conveyed through words and nonverbal gestures.  Use a normal tone of voice. Avoid sarcasm.  Speak directly and quietly to the student. Whenever possible, avoid calling across a room or raising your voice. Focus on the deed and not on the doer. Convey the message that it is the behavior you object to, not the student.  Be clear and firm and don’t negotiate.  “You need to leave the circle now,” gives a precise direction. “You were talking and jabbing your pencil, etc.” gives too much information, and opens the teacher up to argument: “I was not! He was, too!”

 Relevant – A consequence needs to be logically related to the students’ actions.  It helps children see a cause and effect. (For example, when you talk, your work doesn’t get done.)  It references the rules. (“What do our rules say about name-calling?”)   It focuses on the specific problems created when rules are broken. (“When you tell me you’re going to the bathroom and instead you fool around in the hall, what happens to our trust?”)  It focuses on individual responsibility and accountability for helping preserve a safe learning community. (A student ignores the signal for quiet and keeps on talking with a neighbor. The teacher points out that the signal is a way to make sure everyone can receive directions quickly. It keeps everyone safe. Thus this student needs to see that his or her behavior is not responsible. The teacher implements a short time-out period for the student to recover controls and observe the limits. Later, the teacher perhaps will arrange a practice time so the student can return to the group and show by his or her actions the “signal” procedures.)

Realistic – A consequence should be something the teacher and student can follow through on.  There is a reasonable follow-through action expected by the student. (A student who is not looking where he or she is going spills paint all over the floor. The student will help clean it up, but is not expected to mop the entire class, the hall, and the lunchroom as well.)  There is a clear time frame that is appropriate to the developmental age of the student and the behaviors of the student. (A two-minute time out might or might not give a student time to recover controls. If the student returns to the group before he or she has truly regulated the behavior or while he or she is still pouting and angry, it is likely the misbehaviors will quickly resume.)  Time frame makes sense — it is not too long and thus harsh, or too short and thus ineffective. (A student sent on an errand gets caught playing with the water fountain in the hall. The student loses the privileges of running errands for a few days or the rest of the week — depending on the behavior, prior experience, and so on — but not for a month or forever!) Remember, children need on-going opportunities to learn from their mistakes, develop their self-controls, and regain trust. The teacher is prepared to follow-through and implement. (Told that homework that isn’t handed in has to be made up after school or before school begins, teachers need to check the homework and reinforce expectations, as well as be realistic about their own time availability and parent communication. No empty threats!)  In sum, logical consequences applied with respect, relevancy, and realistic guidelines help children understand the consequences of their own choices and, hopefully, help them learn from their mistakes.



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* Charney, Ruth. Teaching Children to Care, Revised Edition. NEFC

* Brady, Fortin, Porter, Wood. Rules in School, NEFC


Welcome 2016 School Year!

Welcome 2016 School Year!

Happy new school year to everyone.  Prayerfully, you enjoyed your summer break eating good food, spending time with family, and catching up with your friends. Now it’s time to challenge your students, peers, and of course, YOU!

Be Better!

1. Be Better In Your Work – think creatively, be effective, efficient and pay attention to the details.

2. Be Better With Your Customers – in how you prepare, deliver your lessons, and communicate.

3. Be Better With Your Teammates – show and give support to each other, communicate and make    time for your Core Team.

4. Be Better In Your Community – give of your time and talent to the cause. Volunteer!   Make your neighborhood and city a great place to live.

5. Be Better With Our Planet – recycle, minimize your trash, energy use and appreciate the natural beauty around us.

6. Be Better In Your Relationships – communicate, encourage and support. Do your part, you are accountable, take ownership.

7. Be Better To Yourself – in your self-talk, in your personal expectations and in your commitment to being all that you can be.   I need you to survive, your family needs you, friends etc

Summer is over and school as started and we have 180 days of opportunities. Opportunities to make changes, to improve, to grow, to be “Stewards Over the Future” our students!

Back To School 101

One of the most stressful times of the year is right around the corner- back to school! As you are running around trying to get everything ready for the upcoming school year, make sure you take time to stay organized & shop smarter, not harder. There is no reason to cause yourself, or your children, more anxiety during this already chaotic time. Here are a few tips to help keep you on track when prepping for the school year.

1.Shop Early!
Get into the stores to buy school supplies ASAP. Knowing exactly what you need ahead of time will help you get in and out quickly. Get your school’s supply list before you go shopping and make a list of the things you already have.

2.Make a Schedule!
Someone once told me that “prior proper planning prevents poor performances”, and I have tried to live by it ever since. A great deal of stress can be relieved by taking a look at all of the upcoming school events/important dates and jotting them down on your own personal calendar. You can even write down your carpool schedule & your child’s after school activities.

3.Organize clothes!
Donate/sell anything that is too small or that your child no longer likes. Having a garage sale, or stopping by a store that will buy your clothes can earn you some spending money for your child’s upcoming wardrobe change.

4.Meal Prep!
Planning out lunches for the week to come can save you a ton of time. The last thing you want to do at the end of the day is make lunch. We would all rather be relaxing. Putting together healthy meals that are all ready to go for the week makes a huge difference when rushing out the door in the mornings.

Getting your children to go to sleep/wake up earlier a week before school starts. This will allow them to get their schedule back on track. There is nothing more stressful than trying to drag a sleepy, cranky child to their first day of school.

6.Calm Them Down!
After a long break many children can suffer from DIDASKALEINOPHOBIA (fear of going to school). It is important that you look out for the signs of this phobia and apply the appropriate solutions early on so your child feels as comfortable as possible. A great resource for solutions can be found in this article!

Going back to school doesn’t have to be hectic. By taking the steps necessary, you can stay sane and your children can stay happy all year!

July 29, 2016 by Veronica Solecki a Social Media and PR Specialist at



I  have found the secret to success Film and happiness as a mother is to live Safety close to God.  As I grow in Merry motherhood I am learning to Te know Him better each day and each day I love Him more day by day.  Happy Mothers!!